What Parents Should Know About Good Parenting

Family is the first school for children. The growth and development of a child depends on the parenting style adopted by the parents.

The problem that often occurs is that parents limit their children too much, or can be called strict parents.

Advances in technology have also influenced parenting in this modern era. Many children spend more time in front of gadget screens than interacting with their parents or doing healthier physical activities. This can result in a lack of social skills, a lack of attention, and a decrease in critical thinking skills.

This factor is a challenge for parents, but in reality many parents let their children linger on their gadgets until they forget the time. They do not control their children's habits with the intention that the children are not fussy. Though this habit can lead to addiction.

Another phenomenon associated with parenting is the busyness of parents. Many parents are so busy with work and other responsibilities that they don't have enough time to spend quality time with their children. As a result, children may feel neglected, under-supervised, or not getting the attention they need.

The Benefits of Applying Good Parenting

According to Baumrind (in Papalia, 2004), parenting is the way parents raise children by meeting their needs, providing protection, educating, and influencing children's behavior in everyday life.

The benefit of implementing good parenting is that it makes children physically and mentally prosperous. parents must also pay attention to the stages of good growth and development, so that it will have a positive impact on the child's future.

In addition, implementing the right parenting style will create an environment that supports and facilitates healthy and optimal development in children.

Types of Parenting Patterns

According to Baumrind (1991) there are four categories of parenting that parents must know:

1. Authoritative Parenting

Authoritative or democratic parenting is the opposite of authoritarian parenting. Parents give children freedom and encourage children to be independent. Parents always give positive encouragement to guide their children in a better direction. Usually children become confident, can make decisions and are responsible for what they do.

2. Authoritarian Parenting

Authoritarian parenting is a parenting style that is very strict, in which parents tend to impose their will on children without much reason that their children must obey, regardless of the child's feelings.

3. Indulgent Parenting

Indulgent or permissive parenting is a type of parenting style that parents are ignorant of their children. Whatever children want to do is allowed by them, including things that are not good or contrary to certain values.

4. Neglectful Parenting

Neglectful parenting is a parenting style in which parents are not very involved in the child's life. Parents in this type of parenting develop a feeling that other aspects of the parent's life are more important than the child's.

How to Do Good parenting

Here are some ways parents can do in providing good parenting patterns to children:

1. Give affection and attention

Show love and affection to children consistently. Speak softly, play with them, and listen attentively when they talk.

2. Be a good example

Children tend to imitate the behavior of the adults around them. Be a good example by demonstrating positive values, desired behavior, and how to manage your emotions well.

3. Be consistent

Create rules and be consistent in their application. Kids need clear boundaries and consistent consequences for breaking rules.

4. Effective communication

Good communication between parents and children is very important. Listen attentively to your child, use age-appropriate language, and ask open-ended questions to understand their feelings and thoughts. Encourage children to speak honestly and openly. Effective communication builds trust and strengthens the relationship between parent and child.

5. Encourage independence and responsibility

Give children the opportunity to make decisions and complete tasks appropriate to their age. Encourage independence by assigning appropriate responsibilities. This helps children develop self-confidence, independent skills and a sense of responsibility towards their duties and responsibilities.

It should be noted that each type of parenting has its own impact on children. Good parenting patterns will have positive effects on children such as the relationship between parents and children will be closer, communication between parents and children will become more effective, and can also increase happiness for children so that they can increase children's confidence to live their lives. Conversely, bad parenting patterns can also have many negative effects on children.

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 Editorial Team:

Amril Prayoga, Cindy Rosmaini, Fitra Nuhaad Nafiis Thaib, Fitria Fera Diana, Handoko Adriano, Konita Aina Thurfi, Ludiah Zenada.

 

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References:

Baumrind, D. (1991). The influence of parenting style on adolescent competence and substance use. The Journal of Early Adolescence, 11(1), 56-95.

Papalia, D. E., Olds, S. W., & Feldman, R. D. (2004). Human Development. New York: McGraw-Hills.

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